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Old 18-04-2018, 11:10   #1
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I think it's time to start dealing with this, and fitst thing is to get it out there and say that I have been diagnosed with depression.
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Old 18-04-2018, 11:35   #2
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I think it's time to start dealing with this, and fitst thing is to get it out there and say that I have been diagnosed with depression.
Try putting it into 4wd low, not met a deep enough hole that does not work on...

Sorry, being a bit flippant, I have the same, but most of the time can keep it under control by looking at the bigger, hopefully brighter, picture.

Having a back log of jobs with no end in sight seems to trigger mine, and things that are out of my control, like having to find someone to do things if I can't do them.

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Old 18-04-2018, 11:53   #3
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Don,

I read with sadness and interest, your post. However, recognising that you have a problem and confronting it yourself, is a huge leap forward in getting help and hopefully resolving the greater crisis......you have to want to help yourself.

I curse roundly those people that just say.. ..oh, just pull yourself together...!!!!! What utter nonsense and crass behaviour, I would almost wish it on them and see how they got on.....but I wouldn't wish it on anyone....

It has been a recurring problem for me.....I have have had medication in the past, when first diagnosed, along with very good counselling.

On the second occasion, I had no medication, but again received very good counselling.

Currently I believe I am very down, but just about coping......

All the episodes I think, were triggered by critical events in my life. I also learnt a while back that my Father was depressive, and gather that this may be hereditary.

I learnt and developed coping strategies, and also learnt the little alarm bells/early warnings to look out for......they do help enormously.......it's just a shame that this time around, I was too busy and engrossed in my move back/house renovation, to notice them......and crashed and got a little burnt.....

Medication is not the definitive cure (there isn't one really) but good counselling (talking therapy) is very often a great way forward. It depends greatly on your individual GP' s attitude and resources to help you, rather than just doling out tablets, and hoping you'll go away.....I know I was mega lucky with my GP.. ..

As a family on here, we confronted Uncles life changing events, and supported him and others through them.....lets hope that mental health problems can receive the same open and caring support......

I'm sure they will....
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Old 18-04-2018, 16:13   #4
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Hi,
This is definitely something that should a open subject. A very positive step Don simon, we as blokes should talk more.

We were shown this video at some training I attended late last year and one that I actually thought was well put together and at least to me thought provoking.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCrniLQGYc
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Old 18-04-2018, 16:49   #5
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This is definitely something that should a open subject. A very positive step Don simon, we as blokes should talk more.

We were shown this video at some training I attended late last year.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCrniLQGYc
I'm sacred to death about talking about it at work, as a glorified salesman I'm supposed to be upfront and confident, which I am (and which has no connection with depression). I also know that there is a strong likelyhood that it'll be misunderstood (it has happened in the past with a company that claims to have stong links with mental health charities and a strong internal mental health policy). I mentioned to my previous employer that their mental health policy was failing (me), and they responded that I was talking rubbish and that the policy was robust. That really makes you want to talk about it and be concerned about companies that promote mental health policies.

There's enough people out there talking about it that I feel quite confident discussing it now..... Just not at work....
Hopefully it is positive.
We all have something wrong with us, my failure is depression.

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Old 18-04-2018, 17:02   #6
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Old 18-04-2018, 17:15   #8
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There's enough people out there talking about it that I feel quite confident discussing it now..... Just not at work....
Hopefully it is positive.
We all have something wrong with us, my failure is depression.

Thanks for the replies.
Don, Your depression IS NOT YOUR FAILURE.......

It is merely the side effect of submicroscopic trace elements missing, causing a reaction.....thats a bit of science out of the way......

I'm a big hairy lumberjack, so what ! What you are doesn't make you who you are...

So don't tell work, tell your friends, your family (this one included) and certainly if they have the regard they should have for you, they will listen and try to help.....
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Don, Your depression IS NOT YOUR FAILURE.......

It is merely the side effect of submicroscopic trace elements missing, causing a reaction.....thats a bit of science out of the way......

I'm a big hairy lumberjack, so what ! What you are doesn't make you who you are...

So don't tell work, tell your friends, your family (this one included) and certainly if they have the regard they should have for you, they will listen and try to help.....
That was an attempt at humour.
Tell my family!!!!! THEY'RE THE MAJOR KERFUFFLING CAUSE OF IT!!!!!
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No humour Don, sorry to hear that bit of news.....but I can understand that....
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I have never suffered with depression so I can’t comment much but I guess finding the root cause is a good place to start and work from there, sorry to hear your suffering
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Old 18-04-2018, 18:34   #12
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Agreed with what has been said and whole heartedly agree that blokes don’t talk enough, this is one thing uncle has left us all with. It’s all too often brushed under the carpet which is utter crap. The black dog often pops along unexpectedly and it’s right that people should talk about it.
I also believe that meds are not always the answer but good friends are.
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Old 18-04-2018, 19:00   #13
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I too do not and have not suffered with depression, as far as I'm aware, but if I did have a problem I thought I couldn't share with anyone close to me, I would be visiting my doctor.
They are supposed to be professionals and I'd hope, guide me in the right direction.
As already said DS, you've got a head start on it sharing your thoughts here.
All the best and carry on looking after No. 1
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Old 18-04-2018, 19:16   #14
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One problem is recognising you have a problem and then having a clear enough thought process and confidence to go to the doctors. That’s one reason why people suffer in silence. What a hell of a place we have here guys, I’ve seen it evolve and change over the years and mature into the place we all have here. Long may the place last.
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Old 18-04-2018, 19:29   #15
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That's because we're all that bit older and wiser
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